The Birth of an Idea

Born from the pain of heartache

An idea to do something, to create something, for my new found community came to me in May of 2025, six months after I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I have no idea what that "something" was until June 30th, 2025.

When I shared my most vulnerable struggle online and was met not only with understanding, but a community wide need for more.

One video can change your life.

I almost didn't post this.

The many years of being called "sensitive" and "dramatic"

almost lead to me deleting this video.

But I didn't

I've learned to listen to my own voice and know that feeling big things is okay.

Those big feelings lead me to something more than I could have ever imagined.

It lead me to you guys, It lead me here.

Spoonie Bestie is Born

So, by now you've probably put together that I've figured out that "something" more huh?

The kind of community I wanted and WE needed didn't exist, so in true Kenya fashion, I made it. I've been a doer, once I commit to an idea I jump right in. It hasn't always lead to the best outcomes, but I have a lot of life experience I wouldn't have otherwise.

So Spoonie Bestie is a community support group, we will have bi-weekly video calls, community resources, as well as groups you can join to make friends with other chronically ill folks.

I took this leap of faith and I truly believe it will be worth it. We are worth it.

A little bit about me...

Okay, so you're probably like who the heck is this (super amazing, funny, talented..) woman.

Let me give you a spark note

I'll start with the important stuff.

Aries

Virgo

Scorpio

This is real, this is meeeeee

Okay, what you're actually here for

I was born to teenage parents, raised mostly by my nanny (grandma) in a small town in Virginia.

I was my nanny's fix it kid, oldest daughter of an oldest daughter, of an oldest daughter. We call that three generations of trauma right there.

I experienced emotional and mental neglect/abuse and witnessed physical abuse of those I loved. I come from a black family that doesn't talk about things, we just move on.

My bio father had almost nothing to do with me and my step dad died when I was 8. The same year my mom had a stroke and I almost died in an accident.

Fast forward to my teenage years I was angry and self harming. This is also when I started using my body to gain attention from boy...well grown men online... if you were a KiK or chatroom kid, you know.

At 18 I entered my first emotionally abusive relationship and spent the next 6 years of my life trying to find love in anyone that would give it to me.

At the end of year 24 I met the love of my life and by the time I was 25 I was ready to start healing.

I moved away, found myself, and was living a beautiful life.

Until MS came to visit and settled in 11/29/2024

There is a lot in between these gaps and that lead to now, but I wanted to share this here so you know I'm not just some random person.

I have been through things and continue to fight for a better life and I want to be apart of your journey to do the same.

I love you bestie.